Why can't people understand?

Question

I'm shy, and there is a couple of people from my class, come to me and called me a retard, slowly, because they thought that I was dumbass. Everybody made fun of me because I'm shy. I go to speech, so I go to special ed, and said to me that Special Ed students are mentally challenged. Why can't people understand?

Answer 1

My son has a speech delay. In every other way, he is perfectly normal, and in fact, in some ways he is smarter than others his age. But people label him retarded because he is in Special Ed.

Those people are short-sighted and not very bright really. They just don't feel good enough about themselves so they go pick on someone that they think is an easy target. There is nothing wrong with being shy and in fact, there is nothing wrong with someone who is mentally challenged. They are people, just like you and just like me. It makes me so mad when people say something like that to my son that I just want to hit them. But all I can do is tell my son that I love him and that he is special and wonderful and smart.

I don't know why people don't understand. We all just stopped loving each other and respecting life, you know? It takes someone like you to be brave and honest and show people that you can behave better than that. Give the best that is in you, and maybe someday my son will not be called a retard.

Answer 2

Ugh, I can totally sympathize with you. I have ADD and learning disabilities, so I was in special education in elementary and middle school, and I also had speech therapy. Middle school was absolutely hell for me because so many bozos in my class were constantly calling me retarded and making fun of my stutter. I am nearly 30 years old but these memories still make me cringe after all these years.

People that age are basically immature bozos who don't realize how cruel the effects of their teasing and bullying can be. It's a difficult age because your hormones are rushing around and you're getting used to so many changes. Many young teenagers deal with this stress by picking on other people; and unfortunately, special education students are often an easy target for bullies. You just have to remember that the people who say these things are complete jerks who have such low self-esteem that all they can do is put others down.

When people tease and bully you, it's not because there is something wrong with you. It's because there is something wrong with THEM. Remember that. As Lindsay Lohan's character said in the movie "Mean Girls," just because someone calls you stupid doesn't make him or her any smarter.



Also, just hang in there for a few years and your classmates will mature into decent human being and stop acting like animals.



Good luck and I hope things get better for you soon honey!

Answer 3

Because they are mentally challenged in a different way. We all learn differently and we are all special. Just brush off their comments as they mean nothing and only show that they lack knowledge that you already have. Just love your life and who you are. The world is full of people who will like you or dislike you, understand you or misunderstand you, and so what, Just like yourself and keep learning and growing, Know what is important to you and worry about that...and those few people who call you a retard are just showing their immaturity so shouldn't be important enough to worry about right now.

We are all smart in different ways and in different things at different times in our lives. We fill in each others failings and by just ignoring those people you have filled in their failings, Hope you have a wonderful life and never be hard on yourself as other people seem to like to take that role. I was considered a slow learner, but I found I learned what was important to me fast enough...and also it has been proved scientifically that this is not the smartest you will be. Your brain keeps making new connections and cells the more you use it. I wish I had of known this when I went to school. I always thought I would never be smart enough to do stuff. So just keep enjoying learning and don't get frustrated...you will never know it all, but you will know what you want to.

Answer 4

People will always find a way to make fun of other people for no reason except that they are not confident in themselves. If you read alot you are a bookworm, if you get great grades you are a nerd, if you are good at sports you must be a jock (which most people assume means you are not that smart). If you look different, or listen to different music, or have an accent, there will always be someone to make fun of you. Hard to do, I know, but try not to worry about it. Show people what you are good at, if there is an activity you are good at and enjoy, get involved in it so people can get to know all the great things about you. Hang in there, and maybe you could talk to your school about changing the programs to just "Speech" or "Reading resources", so the title Special Education is not used anymore.

Answer 5

Special Ed has nothing to do with being mentally challenged. Being in Special Ed simply means you have a curriculum tailored specifically for YOU. Mine was, and I was considered Special Ed---gifted classes are special education.



You're obviously not dumb by any means, that I can tell. If anyone has issues with you going to speech, tell them that everyone who makes a living on TV, radio or in the movies has to go to speech as well. I'm a radio news anchor, and we go through what's known as accent elimination.

Answer 6

I was just looking around and your question caught my eye. I have no answer why people act the way they do, and they probably are just attempting to feel superior, because in their own way they feel less than. What I want to say to you is that for a special ed person your question is very well written and your grammar cannot be faulted and you have conveyed yourself as a highly intelligent person. Have you considered therapy to work through your shyness? There are many methods that can really help.

Peace be with you.

Answer 7

every one is special. all in different ways. some take a little while longer to understand things while others only think they know everything. my son went to speech and special classes and he told them he was learning for life. not for the moment. keep up the good work and try your hardest to look the other way. and always remember that God Loves you and that you are special to all who really love you.

Answer 8

Don't worry. They are just jealous. For those who have patience to know well shy people (like me, I really really shy :'-( ) they are the greatest people they can ever meet. Shy people really impress those who know them well. You just have to change if you want to. Do not change because of what the others think about you. Keep being yourself. I'm pretty sure that you're a great guy!

Answer 9

Darlin you are not a retard. People only say that because they are ignorant. Dont ever let me hear you say that again. You matter as all of us do. Take a deep breath and be happy you are alive and have people that care for you. Remember it takes more muscles to frown with than it takes to smile with. Have a good night hon.

Answer 10

Some people are just that ignorant. Others say those things to make themselves feel better. I wouldnt let it bother me; I know how hard that sounds, but as long as you know that you are not a dumbass thats all that matters.

Answer 11

It makes me so mad when people pick on others for the fun of it.



Often people make fun of things they don't understand, or even care to try to understand.



They see you as being different, and think its funny to put you down often in-front of their peers, to make themselves look good, but in reality they are being insensitive jerks.



I bet your good at something that they could never aspire too, such art, focus on the good thing you can do, and try (as hard as it is) to ignore these jerks. Also walk away from them and laugh.



Also report their actions and comments to your teacher, or support worker (if you have one) and stress the importance of being kept anonymous.



I wish you luck and take care

Answer 12

People will never understand. Some might, but defnitely not all. You can be more powerful than all of them if you understand this about them. Being a little bit different than the norm can be just as much of an advantage as it can be a setback.

Answer 13

People make it sound as if a person is either 4.0 or retarded; a person can't be anything in between. I don't get that. I want to see these very people in a disable plight. What would they do if they were disabled?

Answer 14

I am middle-aged. All of my life people have judged me to be of low intelligence because I was shy--until they got to know me better. It is very frustrating. But the key is to find a way to get people knowing you better. Maybe a counselor can help.

Answer 15

just realize that the real "retards" are the ones who do not let their minds grow. God made us all in His own image, and that is just how it is. they will get theirs one day, trust me. no matter who we are or what we talk like, or look like, we are all just here for this one life, and if people want to spoil their breath of a life by being ignorant, then let them. you just need to enjoy the time that you have on this earth, and let them be miserable inside.

Answer 16

I was in your shoes once I'm learning disabled to and I know how it feels. People think because you are disabled that gives them the right to pick on people who are different and they think we have no feelings and won't understand. But God gives us things we have to overcome and deal with. If you ever want to talk some more to me or have any questions my e-mail address is:[e-mail]. Also people are very ignorant and don't get that we (disabled people) have to surrive in this society to.

Answer 17

They're scared of you because they know if you didn't have speech, you would be way better and smarter than they are. What worse, being born needing speech or being born an idiot. They're idiots,, just laugh in their faces, you're still better than they are.

Answer 18

Some of them are just stuck on stupid and should be avoided. They will understand if they had to be in your place and would not take this reaction from you.

Answer 19

They have no confidence and make up for it by putting you down.Dont let it work. Just smile and tell them how inteligent they sound. Tell your teacher and ask her not to tell them you asked for her help.She could watch them.In this day and age bullying isnt tolerated.

Answer 20

Their just jealous because when God created you he added something extra something special, being mentally challenged is your gift from God

Answer 21

they are stupid people don,t worry you are best