Question:
How can I be a positive and effective supervisor to someone with Asperger's in a work situation?
1970-01-01 00:00:00 UTC
How can I be a positive and effective supervisor to someone with Asperger's in a work situation?
Fifteen answers:
Junie
2007-05-15 16:18:17 UTC
I am married to a man with Asperger's, and am the mother of a little boy with autism. My husband has had a terrible time coming across well at interviews, too! LOL Lucky he has a nice portfolio and does some pretty fantastic work. (He's a designer.)



Some little tips I would suggest:



1. Always make sure that he or she understands what is expected. I mean, don't be vague, don't ask for something to be completed "soon" (by Thursday at 2:00 is better, for example) and don't expect him to pick up on any little social subtleties. (For example, he might not notice that no one wears shorts at work. If there is a dress code, be up front about it, or privatly mention what is expected if it becomes a problem.



2. Recognize that it is sometimes easy for an "Aspie" to get overstimulated by bright lights, noise, etc. Usually, a person with Asperger's will have trouble concentrating, may "stim", or talk more rapidly or in a higher pitch when they are getting overstimulated.



3. A "stim" is a repetitive motion which an Aspie finds soothing or relaxing, such as tapping a pencil, playing with a rubberband, or, the "poster child" of stims, hand flapping. If this is distracting to other employees, you might suggest quieter activities, such as squishing a stress ball or fiddling with paperclips.



4. An Aspie might not hear you or notice you talking if he is very focused on something. It's best to lightly touch the person on the shoulder or get in front of them before you start talking, if they look like they are really concentrating.



5. It is easy for an Aspie to get overloaded by information at times, and then it seems that the communication centers sort of shut down for a minute. If you have important or stressful information to impart, tell him, then go do something else and let him process it before talking to him about it.



Other great autistic/asperger's authors are Luke Jackson and Temple Grandin. I highly recommend any of their works.



Asperger's syndrome does come with many positives. My husband is constantly getting raises at work after they begrudigly let his terrible interviews slide, and hired him anyway. He is incredibly focused - literally does not take a lunch break. He is extremely bright, with mind-boggling spatial and logic skills. He has no interest in lying or boasting in order to get ahead in the world or to sound better to people. (something I've heard from other wives about Aspie guys.) He is a very dedicated, hard-working guy, which is actually pretty typical for anyone on the "spectrum". Just remember: If he is not doing what he is supposed to be doing, tell him! He might not have noticed that everyone does things a certain way.
2007-05-14 01:58:33 UTC
Please explain their communication style and how it is different.



As a person on the PDD spectrum, let me share some things as far as relating to me goes. Not all of these may be true for others with PDD/Aspergers/Autism.



1. Thoroughly explain reasons for things, particularly if they could come across as punishment or a penalty. Since they may have difficulty with trusting others, you'd need to be more transparent than with other workers and not feel you are being questioned, disrespected, or insubordinated against by this person. You'd have little to fear if this requires revealing a few sensitive details since most of us tend to be too naive to misuse information to hurt others.



2. Learn to accept their quirks and not think of them as disordered.



http://www.autismtoday.com/articles/What%20is%20Neurodiversity.asp



3. Do not assume that temper explosions are deliberate or thier fault. Nor assume that behavior will keep escalating. Also, do not treat them differently after some episode that they could not help. Trying to "prevent another episode" may actually cause one. If they feel like everyone is trying to control them, they may explode, and if your solution is to steal more control from them, you would be feeding into the problem.



4. Make sure that the person has allies, people who will stick up for them if they are being harassed or verbally abused.



5. Watch out for them and make sure they are not scapegoated by others. Their lack of subtleties may make them easy targets for scapegoating and black-balling.



6. You may wish to inform others to not intervene if this person does anything, but let you be the sole person to handle this.



7. Don't make a big deal about their emotions, judge them on their emotions, or comment on them. A statement like "You look upset today" may come across as an accusation, nosiness, or judgementalness.



8. Keep reminding yourself that their gestures may not match what they are feeling, if anything. So you'd need to learn to pay attention to the words, not the body language. That will be a challenge since up to 70% of communication is body language. The person with Aspergers might make up for this deficit by using more words, and you might find them tiresome to communicate with.



9. If you become friends, do not use anything they share with you to harm or penalize them in the work context. I am not sure, but trying to compartmentalize work and friendship probably works the best. Don't cross consequences between one or the other.



10. If they do something beyond their control, don't punish them for their disability.



11. Don't be arrogant, belligerant, or "my way or the highway" with them, and don't expect them to change who they are or how they communicate.



12. If they need to say something in order to keep from exploding with emotions, let them, and don't let others try to control them or get in their way while they are doing this. Consider that a top priority. Would you rather "waste time" helping someone or waste time mopping up a mess that could have been avoided?



13. If there is an explosion, maybe the best thing to do is stay out of the way and avoid any inclination to intervene. Trust them to handle their own emotions and deescalate on their own. Don't play hero or the tough guy who gets the last word nor allow others to do so. Don't make it into a contest of urinary skill.



14. If you must brush them off, do it politely. "I don't have time for this," is not a polite response. If they are needing compassion, even if you don't have time, "I'm sorry to hear about that" in a sympathetic tone goes a long ways.
chikkenbone
2007-05-14 08:10:34 UTC
Anon pretty much nailed it. Also keep in mind that sensory overload is very real and very unpleasant. Also, forced social events for workers are always a bad idea.
Lisa
2007-05-14 00:00:44 UTC
You will have to learn this persons needs, quirks etc to fully understand how to properly and effectively supervise.

Every person with Asperger's is different. In general, I would say be supportive and don't harshly correct mistakes. Correct with a "soft touch". Harsh correction often causes them to shut down. Give praise for work done properly.
Todd W
2007-05-16 14:14:33 UTC
Perhaps the Job Accommodation Network could be of some assistance:



http://www.jan.wvu.edu/
fen-fox
2007-05-15 11:26:39 UTC
In my experience one must alter ones body language and comunication style. Stay calm and quiet with slow and precise movement. Show by example rather than explain or tell or order. These people are quite good at fixating on details, and are capable of becomeing fine freinds and highly intelegent employees.
2007-05-17 06:08:20 UTC
Are they there to work or to talk?

What difference does it make how they get on?

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kamsmom
2007-05-14 21:18:45 UTC
People with disabilities have the right to work...I suggest some diversity classes and try to be more understanding and tolerant of this persons abnormality.
tfoley5000
2007-05-14 12:33:07 UTC
Be calm Relaxed and Clear headed, these are very Sensitive People you're Dealing with, its never easy, but don't show any signs of Stress, they have More Integrity then you knowand they demand more Attention then others If they're Difficult walk away just Go becuase they worth the Trouble, I'm saving your *** from getting hurt.
Michael M
2007-05-15 03:55:53 UTC
I have Asperger's Syndrome.



I am happy to reveal whatever I can. Just send me mail thru my Avatar at Yahoo.
2007-05-16 17:44:52 UTC
As I am a person with asperger's I can tell you from personal experience, be patient with them. People with aspergers can hear something that wasn't even said and that is when they are even looking at the person talking, instead of telling them to pay closer attention, you may want to gently interject and repeat what somebody is asking for in a question form. If you do and your employee hears it correctly from you then they will know that they misunderstood. I am proud that you know about asperger's and know that it is a form of autism. As you know (at least I hope that you know this) those of us with asperger's have a lot of trouble finding and holding onto jobs. In fact I have a job that I used to love but now I am going to have to get a job coach and look for another job because the person that is making things hard on me is held to one standard while I am held to a much higher standard and. I can also understand why they didn't put down the fact on their application that they do suffer from that retardation. I have done that before and have never heard from a prospective employer so I did find it best to not say anything about it and hope that I got hired. Also persons that do suffer from asperger's do have difficulty interacting in the workplace especially. Believe me I know what I am talking about, as I have had trouble in working situations because of my asperger's because I met 8 out of 10 criteria with MHMR. Just make sure that none of your employees pick on this other one. I am very proud of you for hiring a person with this particular retardation.
Shaun
2007-05-19 09:17:20 UTC
Wow, you got a lot of info here. I want to emphasize that depending on how severe this guy's AS is, it's probably not going to be as hard as the number of directions you're getting makes it seem.



I think there's a few important major points to remember. Be literal. If you want something, say it, don't hint it. If he's doing something wrong, don't assume he knows, tell him.



Don't assume he automatically handled a situation wrong either (or if you do don't TELL him.) My mother always told me she "knew" I did something wrong even if she wasn't there or didn't know wtf she was talking about. Very frustrating.



Mostly I think you'll get a feel for him by getting to know him. As long as you realize he's not going to be reading much subtext (if any) this process should be fine. Just communicate and find out what his needs are. Once you have a rough idea of how to do it you can refine it with more stuff later, but most NTs seem to get overwhelmed with a huge list of differences from themselves.
pale_rider
2007-05-17 04:14:56 UTC
have you read.... the incredible 5-point scale

my neice is just over 1 and has autism. i've heard the book is excellent and discusses ways of socializing etc with autistics. you may find some helpful info in there. otherwise i frequently visit the "neuroscience for kids" webpage as i'm studying neuroscience next yr at uni. Its pretty basic and has some good reading on autism.
2007-05-17 02:52:58 UTC
I wish I never had asperger syndrome in the first place. Life for me would be so much easier and better without the disablity
2007-05-13 23:57:50 UTC
Unless you have Asperger's yourself, I think it's unlikely to work out.


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